Cuffing and Banishing

Be careful what you ask for, y’all. Rootwork ain’t no joke — for realz!

So, my client was having trouble with one co-worker and trying to “cuff” another. Cuffing is getting someone you are sweet on to respond in-kind. It’s cuffing season anyway and I figured the cuffing would be easy. A lot of that is just instilling confidence in the client. You know, “the magick feather” effect? I pulled cards as usual and confirmed this was work the ancestors want me to take on. I got a clear yes, so I had the client put the person’s name in a sweetening jar and plant a petition. Zip zap zop, they were planning a first date.

Warding someone off is more complicated work. You don’t wanna bring down bad mojo, and the spirits aren’t personal assistants, they do what they think is best and sometimes it ain’t what you had in mind. I carry some guilt about some pretty awful things that have happened to people who’ve crossed me in the past. I wasn’t doing work on them, but just having had bad thoughts can manifest some harsh consequences. I believe that. I was pretty specific when I wrote the petition to protect the client from harm. I didn’t tell the spirits how to do it, which might have been my first mistake.

I sent the work priority mail, so it would get to the client during the full moon to new moon cycle. That’s the time for letting go and shaking off. Instead of two days it took almost a week. Let that be a warning to y’all that priority mail ain’t guaranteed, so you might be paying extra for nothing. Still, the client was disturbed by that. They were thinking maybe the spirits didn’t want to help out on this one. I think the work needed it’s time to “cook” and was gonna get there when it wanted, not when I or the client thought it was supposed to arrive. Work takes patience. That’s something I am still learning.

The work arrived (a week late, as I said) and that day, the “bad” co-worker called out sick. Sure it’s a coincidence, but is anything ever really just a coincidence? It happened for several days and now a week has passed and my client found out the person was fired. Damn! That wasn’t what I intended and I ain’t about effing with people’s livelihoods. This person had been a pain in the ass—starting rumors and creatin’ drama and shit for my client. The ancestors weren’t having that mess, I guess. I’m gonna send up a petition to keep that person safe, while keeping them away. I’m also gonna send up a big thank you to mom and gran’mom and all them.

Pink Flowers

Pink Flowers is a Black trans artist, peacemaker, educator, and pleasure activist whose work lives at the intersection of embodiment, governance, and cultural transformation. Trained in Theater of the Oppressed, Art of Hosting, and Navajo-informed Peacemaking practices, Pink designs spaces where conflict can be addressed, power can be examined, and joy can be reclaimed.

Her artistic and pedagogical practice draws from African trickster cosmology, Brazilian Joker traditions, shamanic ritual, and cooperative economics. She is the founder of the award-winning Falconworks Theater Company (2005–2021), which used popular theater to build civic capacity and participatory leadership in historically marginalized communities.

Pink served for over five years as a trained Peacemaker in the Red Hook Community Justice Center in Brooklyn, facilitating restorative processes within the New York City court system. From 2015–2018, she worked in cooperative business development with the Center for Family Life, supporting worker-owned enterprises in immigrant communities.

She currently serves as Director of Education and Training for the Inter-Cooperative Council in Ann Arbor, where she leads leadership development and conflict engagement initiatives. Her work has been presented nationally and internationally, including at the Stretch Festival in Berlin and the Pedagogy and Theatre of the Oppressed Conference.

Across ritual, performance, mediation, and institutional design, Pink’s work asks a central question:

What becomes possible when we refuse shame and choose conscious power instead?

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